Managing Crisis – When You’re Too Good At It

When you are acclaimed for excellence during times of crisis you may not feel so great in a non-crisis atmosphere. You may not shine so bright, perform so well, be quite so acclaimed. If crisis is how you satisfy your personal need to be needed, to feel accomplished, to be respected, to be heard, to be noticed, blah blah blah, then you will naturally seek out, create, attract, be drawn into situations that will permit you to fulfill this need. Your environments and relationships will be filled to the brim with one crisis after another.

Perhaps there is a better way to get your need met. Perhaps there is a way to feel needed and still exist in calm, cooperative, and synergistic environments. It’s amazing to see the content and characteristics of an individual’s life break apart and rebuild with the identical irreverent qualities. Folks change mates but the basis of the relationship is identical. People change jobs and the exact complaints emerge as before. Folks escape debt, lose weight, move to different towns, and nothing really changes. It is a scary thing. I have seen the inside view and it is very scary.

This déjà vu type phenomenon has left me baffled and disheartened. Here is the deal; once we treat the symptoms, the root cause remains unaffected and it emerges again and again. Our outside lives tell the same story over and over like a broken record until we finally get it. The outer reflects the inner. The outer is a symptom; the interior is the main cause. The outer is the picture in the mirror; the interior is the actual object. You wouldn’t stand in the mirror with the goal of washing your face and wash the manifestation of your own face in the mirror, do you? … I did not think so. Well that’s just what we’re doing when we focus on fixing our symptoms.

A fundamental place to start transformation is by being responsible for understanding your own personal requirements and ensuring they are met in a suitable context. Get your needs met appropriately and forever and your life will be changed for sure.